The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; those crushed in spirit He delivers. Psalm 34:19

The Death of A  LOVED one … 

is a life changing event that can leave any of us feeling many different emotions.  As we mourn our loss, it feels like no one in the world can understand what we are going through – the pain, sadness, anger, loneliness, and other sensations of overwhelming loss.  The Bereavement Program offered by the Ministry of Consolation at OLL is designed to help the participants deal with the sometimes complicated feelings that are part of the grieving process.  We offer an eight session program with discussion, and a sharing of information within a welcoming and non-threatening framework. There is ample opportunity for individuals to actively participate by sharing their stories, but there is no requirement to do so.  

If you or someone you know is grieving the loss of a loved one, please join us as together we navigate this… PATHWAY TOWARDS PEACE

Grieving at Christmastime …

Christmas comes every year, whether we’re ready or not. Joyous though the season may be, it also brings its own challenges and stresses. And when one is dealing with the loss of a loved one, the holidays can be especially difficult to deal with, and impossible to celebrate.

It’s important for those grieving to remember how important it is to acknowledge, respect, and respond to their sadness, even amidst the festivities—and that they can still observe Christmas in ways that recognize and commemorate both the season and their grief.


10 Tips for Grieving at Christmastime


1. If loved ones are close at hand, you can spend a quiet evening visiting them. Even from a distance, you can feel connected through a phone call, letter, or email. Staying close to those who care helps at this difficult time.


2. There will be times when you simply need to be alone. It’s okay to decline a social invitation. Your emotional needs are extra important this Christmas.


3. If decorating a tree or hanging lights is too much for you, find a simpler way to mark the season. Maybe a candle and wreath is enough this year. Don’t force yourself to do more than you can.


4. When you’re feeling low, a simple diversion can be good for the spirit. Watch a movie or curl up with a  good book if it suits you.


5. A pet can bring comfort and companionship at a time of loss. Maybe this is the year to give yourself a warm, cuddly Christmas present!


6. Volunteering is a good way to connect with others. You don’t have to do much—a little can go a long way toward making you feel better.

Perhaps a local soup kitchen could use help chopping vegetables.


7. Physical movement helps as you work through your pain. Maybe this is the Christmas to join a local health club.


8. A change of scenery can be helpful when familiar surroundings bring painful reminders. Consider spending this Christmas with a friend or relative in another town.


9. Write a letter or paint a picture that expresses your loss. You don’t have to mail the letter or hang the painting. They are for you.

The point is simply to get the feelings out.


10. Seek ways to commemorate the deeper “reason for the season.” Your faith tradition can be a source of comfort and meaning at this time of loss.


(source: “Grieving at Christmastime” Elf-help book - #20052

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